You are always watching
Hello friends,
you suddenly realize that words matter more when you only have 5 blog posts to write until you are leaving again. With that said, time to dig deep today. Fast.
Does it really matter if you skip the gym? If you don't study for a day? If you finally clean up this one table that is filling itself up week by week with more random stuff on it?
"Well, now that I think about it, who gives a shit about the table anyway? And I can study tomorrow. And the gym, well, I skipped it yesterday, so it doesn't matter any more."
"It's just not my day."
"I'm going to continue tomorrow."
"I deserve some rest."
And while you talk this through, someone else is watching. Do you know who?
Your subconscious is watching. It's wondering itself: What is more important? Should we go move our ass and finally achieve our dream body, or continue watching the new series? Should we put ourselves together to become who we want to be and study, or just laze of and scroll on TikTok? Is it finally time to chase what is important to us, what we love, and create the life we want and deserve?
Oh, Netflix is already on. Never mind. I thought we were going to the gym today...
Another day without training. Another day without studying. Another day ignoring the disgusting table.
Another day lying to yourself that you will do it tomorrow.
This is a shadow question right here. Ask yourself this question carefully, and quickly stop reading this blog post to really think about it.
Do you care about your life? And why (not)?
Do you care about yourself? And why (not)?
Do you want to change that, or are you happy with your situation?
This is not a "go harder you pussy" blog post. This is self-realization.
Doing the uncomfortable things that bring you closer to the goals you promised yourself to reach is a form of self-trust and self-respect.
Ignoring the things you promised yourself to do is like stabbing your future self in the back.
Your future self is praying for you to do great. It's hoping for you to win. It believes in you.
And so does your past self.
You are the wisest you've ever been in your life.
If you don't think you are doing great in life, or do not trust yourself, you are screwed. It's time to rebuild, strengthen and live with self-trust.
Here is how:
Only promise things you can control.
You'll need to keep all promises you make. Start by actually doing what you tell yourself and others you will do.
Promises should be about the doing, never about results: Promise yourself to go to the gym, not to lift 100kg or to make more reps. You always control the process, never the result.
I sometimes still fall for this mistake: I promise myself to hit a certain target, fail the target, then I'm frustrated that I "failed" myself. But in reality, I was just setting unrealistic expectations. Be aware of that trap.
Back to the promises: You don't have to go crazy and promise to train for 2 hours a day or to write 20 pages a day. You can start by actually going to bed when you promised yourself to go, or to promise yourself to call your mom or dad and actually doing it.
And this point here is especially a reminder to myself: While promises are key, it requires you to be realistic. If you can't do all the things on your to-do list in a certain time, or you have too many things you want to do, accept that you have to prioritize. Give yourself more time. Keeping promises is about focusing and doing the important, and stop prioritizing the unimportant things. A hard to swallow pill: 24h a day are the limit.
So, this is the summary for you:
1) Prioritize or/and reduce the amount of things you do
2) Promise yourself to actually do the things
3) Actually do the things
The commitment you make to your self matters.
Your future self will love you, you will trust yourself, and your past self will be proud.
Always keep your promises.
My Song of the week
This song is crazy. It really gives you the kick to do the things you want to do when motivation runs low.
Thank you so much for reading today's blog post. You know what you got to do! Promise me.
Much Love,
Kim
P.S
You actually do deserve some rest. If you plan a day or an evening for yourself where you just allow yourself to do nothing, play some video games, laze around, go visit a Spa or just read a book, that's perfectly fine.
But the key word here is "planned". If you plan such a day, you allow yourself to consciously enjoy this break. If you just skip something because you don't feel like doing it, it's a different type of break. It's a break of your trust to yourself.