Why most of us aren't free

KIMZO

May 8, 2023 • 7 min read

Hello friends,

It's getting warmer outside! And while I can finally walk around in a T-shirt and my shorts again, I also had the luxury to enjoy one week of holidays here in Switzerland. And with that much time, I could regenerate my energy and think about some epic new ideas again. On top of that, I was rewatching a show called Attack on Titan, a show with so many twists I don't even know how to summarize it. In this show, one of the characters is confronted with an incredibly interesting question: What is freedom?

Am I free?

I don't want to get too much into this show, because you should all watch it for sure on your own. It's an anime, but don't let that scare you.

And with this premise, I started to challenge my thoughts as well. What is freedom? How do you define it? Are we all free when we have everything, or when we have nothing?

Is freedom the ultimate goal of your purpose?

Defining Freedom

Are you free when you are a multi-millionaire, and have a traumatic past that is haunting you, or are you free when you have a clear mind, but are broke as hell?

Are you free when you can go everywhere you want, or are you free when you can get whatever you want?

Can you be “more free” than someone else?

While thinking about that, I'm getting more questions that I want to answer, but we may need to start with a definition of freedom first. And here we are facing the 1st hurdle already.

Most dictionaries say that Freedom is something like “not being imprisoned” and that you can say, think and do whatever you want.

This is a decent start. We can work with that. Giving us this definition of freedom means, that we can more or less go wherever we want to go, and that we can use our brain to our liking.

All of you reading this have internet access and are open-minded about what you are reading here, and you can (at least via mail) respond to this here. You can think, do and say what you want.

But the real question is: Do you feel free?

One of our most relevant topics right now is to be open about your sexuality. If you are gay, for example, you are allowed to think what you want and act on it. Or at least in Switzerland. In other countries, you are straight up getting killed or put in jail for having another sexuality. Your freedom will be restrained for being different from the majority.

Not everyone is giving you the freedom you want, even in countries that give gay people the same rights as straight people.

Because even tho you can say what you want, act as you want and do what you want, will you experience the same respect from everyone that isn't gay?

Feeling different from other people is a very lonely feeling. People of color, people with another sexuality, bullied people, disabled people and maybe many more I didn't consider until now know this feeling: Walking into a room you feel like you don't belong.

You technically are free, but you feel like the most trapped person ever.

"For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others." ― Nelson Mandela

So, let me ask you once again:

Do you feel free?

The way

Freedom is when the sentence “No one cares about you” seems motivating.

If this sentence triggered you, you aren't free (yet).

Feeling free is different from being free

Being free is the fact that you can go wherever you want, buy whatever you want or have the right to do what you want to do.

The law is restricting your freedom, but ensuring your safety. But technically, you can do everything that is forbidden, if you are ready to live with the consequences. You are allowed to do drugs, but if you get caught, you need to face the consequences.

But feeling free is like feeling infinite. It's unfair as hell.

Nothing that people say to you triggers you. You just don't care, but in a positive way. Feeling free means to be emotionally free.

Emotional freedom is amazing, and the process is incredibly simple. But just because it's simple, it doesn't mean it's easy.

It's like trying to lose weight: It sounds so simple (work out and change your diet to more veggies), but it can be a huge fight to lose the first few kilos, because you are emotionally attached to the food.

The same goes for emotional freedom: You put your journal out, write about something that triggered you (someone pissed you off, something that happened in the past and triggered you etc.) and then you feel into that emotion while breathing deeply.

Sounds so simple that nobody believes me that it works. And then when I finally get through to someone, they bring excuses. The usual two culprits are that they don't have time for that and that it can't work.

The truth is, that your mind will by fighting back.

It is scary as fuck to look at your demons.

Your mind wants to "protect" you from the evil (bad emotions).

But the only way to get rid of those negative emotions, is by feeling into them fully. You need to feel it again.

Therefor, the only valid way is the following:

You get into spirituality and work through your emotions. The Spiritual Journey series can help you a lot with finding things that will help you work through your emotions. Also, you may want to find a mentor or a coaching program. But please, for the love of god, don't ever buy an online course.

Most people buy course after course, and never finish a single one of them. Online courses work only when you have enough discipline, and being disciplined is a skill that has to be learned. Take my word for it, and find a coach.

Why am I being so sure about that? I had one therapist that changed my life, then I did this mentoring by Julien Himself, which showed me how to become emotionally free, and right now I am working with another mentor to expand my knowledge even more.

I am externally the same as most people still. I am not rich. I am not well-known. I dedicated all my time to becoming emotionally free and work on my past traumas. I'm still not perfectly done, but I feel great. I have so much drive in me, and I would have never thought that I could have this much energy.

Work on your emotions, and your emotions will become your biggest friends.

This is freedom that no money in this world can buy you.

Being internally free is crazy. And you can get there as well.

Believe in yourself.

External freedom

External freedom is another topic. It's the topic where your ego will jump high and think about whatever goal you "need". "OMG, I need 10 Bugatti, 20 women, 50 villas, 5 private jets and I need to know Andrew Tate, Barack Obama, Justin Bieber and the Kardashians."

But are you happy? I think by having all of that without any purpose, you are just going to live another meaningless life.

Who cares about the car you drive? I want you to live your own story here on earth.

External freedom can be an amazing side motivation, but please be aware of the trap that it is.

It feeds your ego. External freedom is basically a status war.

People who are more externally free than others are more often than not the ones who don't feel emotionally free. Obviously, this isn't the case for everyone, but what you portray to the outside is often not the reality.

Social Media is the biggest scam. You can feed the people whatever you want. Most people that are smiling on those photos aren't that happy.

That's why it's so important to work on yourself internally first, before you work your ass off and become someone famous or rich.

Because if you are emotionally free, you will become undefeatable. And then, you can grind your ass off to get what you want.

And the more free you are, the more your goals will change to stuff like "I want to have an impact on the people around me, I want to help stop climate change, I want to help develop new technologies for the future". Your vision becomes way bigger than "I want to fuck some bitches".

The clearer your mind, the bigger your vision, and the stronger burns the desire inside to live a life you will remember.

Love yourself and become free.

Our Challenge

For most people, we live in such a huge comfort zone that we don't even want to necessarily change ourselves. Life is ok enough. David Goggins says, that most people live at around a 40% output of what they are capable of. Meaning there are 60% we can own.

I want you to get yourself feeling again. The next time you shower, I want you to take the coldest shower that your shower has to offer. Stand under the cold and feel alive. Try to stay as long as you can, try not to shower your head for too long or else you'll feel dizzy. The minimum target is 10 seconds. Push through it. This will cost will power.

After that, you are allowed to shower warm for 10 seconds.

Get out of the shower and look yourself in the mirror. I want you to talk to yourself. About what you want to do here on earth. Believe in yourself. If you don't know what you want to do, say that you will figure it out and that you will then pursue that. It's okay to not know where you want to go.

Embrace this energy. Then, decide if you want to become emotionally free or not. If you do, either study my Spiritual Journey series, read about problems that you are facing in general or if you are committed enough and already truly understand the value of this all, get yourself a mentor or a coaching (and please don't buy online courses on stuff like that, a coaching brings far more value).

Live a life you will remember. You deserve it.

My song of the week

This song is so chill, I love it.