Something epic is coming soon… Are you ready?
Hello friends,
Boom, surprise. I'm back. I have a lot to tell you, so let's get into it immediately. And no, sadly, I won't come back to the weekly blog posts (yet).
Let's start with a life update from my side.
As I'm writing this, I sit in a hotel lobby in Stockholm. I am currently in an internship, and I'll be here until the end of October. On top of that, I'll probably be in Berlin in the last week of October. Things are very wild at the moment, because there are so many new things happening at the same time: My Internship, working on projects to finish my apprenticeship next year, working on some epic projects etc.
Because it's a lot of things at the same time, I had to get rid of dancing and music temporarily. However, thanks to the new won time, I could double down on my new pillar that I'm building up for myself: Coaching.
As I said in the last blog post, this is the thing that I wanted to double down on, so I could help people out way more efficiently. I brought down my mission to one simple sentence.
I want to raise the vibe of the world.
Raising the vibe of the world: The challenge
Social Pressure has developed into a freaking monster over the last ten years: Social media tells us what is right or wrong, everyone is giving out their opinions and thoughts, and people compare each other more often than ever.
The dating market is literally globalized, pressure for women and men got insanely high, Competitiveness is now bigger than ever. The world changed harshly in the last few years, and if you aren't aligned with yourself, your focus will be thrown all around the world and back. You hear all those opinions, see all of those different things, and you'll have zero chance to figure out on your own what is right and what is wrong. This is especially true for children and teenager, who are on top of that so easy to influence.
And with that said, let met tell you a story.
As a 15 years old, I was afraid of what everyone thought about me, and I tried to make everyone happy with my behavior. I was the definition of a people pleaser: I'd never state my opinion, I'd make sure to smile all day even when I was unhappy, and I really tried everything to never make someone mad or sad. This included strangers that I would never see in my life again.
It even went so far that I googled things like “How can I make everybody like me”.
Guess what happened over time.
My mental state was affected by everyone's opinion out there, because I was so focused on THEM instead of ME:
By trying to be the Mr. Perfect for everyone else, I lost connection to whom I truly were.
As a result, I was treated as a pushover, people made fun of me, and I felt miserable, and I was afraid to fight back because “people wouldn't like me anymore”.
The whole situation made me angry and sad. And worst of all, all this anger was charged towards myself.
“Why did I say nothing? Why did I do nothing? How stupid am I? Why am I so weak? Why am I such a loser?”
It all came down to one single thing: I wasn't confident enough to stand up for myself, because I didn't know who I even was, and what I even wanted. I was being fake all the time, so that I forgot how it is to be me.
So I kept on feeling miserable and crying myself to bed, until enough was enough, and I had a huge breakdown in front of my parents.
I had to let go of the need for validation, and of the need for approval.
And honestly, this is why I'm grateful for the internet: Even Social media is very helpful when used right. YouTube and the internet, as well as a therapist and a coach that I found thanks to the internet, showed me the way out of this hellhole.
Getting yourself a coach is literally the biggest life hack, because you'll get so much knowledge, accountability, and support in such a short amount of time.
I transformed from a shy, overcompensating, unconfident 15-year-old to a fucking legend.
Transformation is possible, and I want to show you how.
And with that said, here is which areas I worked on the most within the last 5 years:
- Social Skills
- Charisma
- Trauma*
- Confidence
- Letting go
*Disclaimer: Keep in mind that if you are interested in the trauma part, that I'm not a psychiatrist or therapist. I'm a coach, who can help you let go of fear (including social anxiety), grief, anger, and similar trigger points in your life, but I'm not trained to help you out of a depression, or any other kind of mental illness. If I feel like that this is not going to work, I will let you know during the coaching and advise you to get professional help.
If you want a business coach, I am the wrong guy.
If you want a fitness coach, I am the wrong guy.
However, if you have any kind of struggles in those 5 areas, I'm your man. As I had the chance to talk to multiple coaches, and to work now closely with Julien Blanc for the past few months, I am now on the way to get my very first certification.
Not only will I be able to teach you the basics during the Transformation Mastery Live events that I'm going to host, but I will be offering some 1 to 1 coaching as well. It will be epic, and I'll be giving you more information soon.
I am also working on a YouTube channel in the background, and I will try to publish YT videos every second weekend in the future. You'll love this, and it's the best way to keep in touch with me for free. I will be sharing more details in one of the next blog posts.
Times are changing and so am I. And I am now fully confident, that I'm working on something great for the first time in my life, that has a lot of potential and value. I've hardly been more excited in my life.
I want to raise the vibe of the world.
Do you know how the vibe of the world can be raised?
One person at a time.
I want to help with that.
This is why I'm a coach now. I'll make sure that you can reach your goals and your full potential. But for all of that, you just have to wait a little longer.
Brace yourself for the most life-changing experience.
I mean it.
Podcast of the week
Modern Wisdom is my favorite Podcast. Chris Williamson is such an amazing host. Check out this episode around self-doubt, very interesting.
Song of the week
I heard this song at Tomorrowland this year for the first time, and it was incredible. If you love Drum & Bass, you'll love this as well.
Further Reading
The Basics of living a fullfilling life.
A concept that will help you immensely in prioritizing the right things in life.
Thank you so much for reading today's blog post. I'll make sure to make it more regular in the next few months, as soon as everything is on going again.
Much Love,
Kim
P.S, if you read this whole blog post here, it really means the world to me. Let's make it epic.