No Nut November
Hello friends!
Today we are going to talk about a challenge, that only the best of us can master. It's the reason, why most men and women are afraid of the month of November. It's also a reason why this month is so hard. Yes, we are talking about the one and only No Nut November (NNN) Challenge. I'm excited, I hope you are as well, let's get started!
We go to war
30 October. Everything was calm. My life was in peace. I felt perfectly fine. And while I went on normally with my school day, a friend of mine just casually asked me: "Will you participate in No Nut November ?" The shock, immeasurable, the pain, even bigger, but I had no choice: I'm someone who loves challenges, and obviously, I'm not a pussy. And this one is the biggest of them all. No porn. No masturbation. No Pleasure. And obviously I wanted to make it through. But I am not a fool. I know how extremely hard it is to just ignore your urges, especially as a man. This is why I needed a plan. And luckily enough, I know how to build up some "Support-Systems" that work. I will now share with you, what my secret ingredients were to surpass this challenge and how all of my group members made it through.
The Game plan
I really didn't have any time to just chill around because the next day was already the first day of the challenge. But I know how to keep myself on track. These are the ingredients for my strategy:
Accountability Group
Firstly, I created an Accountability Group with 3 of my friends who also committed to this challenge. The goal of this group was to keep each other updated. To help each other out. To motivate each other. And to push each other. And the most important factor is of course that you hold each other accountable. If someone fails, the other's will know. You let down your team. You don't want to fail your team. Not only that, but you are in it together!
Accountability Rules
On top of that, let's talk about the carrot and the stick. If someone happened to fail this challenge, he would have to pay 200 dollars. For some people, this might sound insane, but trust me, this is especially on hard days your biggest motivation to not give in to your desire. Then, on the other side, if we all would make it through as a team, we would be going to a steak house and enjoy an amazing meal together to set a statement. This reward could have been anything, but it has to be something that you can do as a group. And Lastly, if everyone had failed, we would be punished by having to try out some epic Brazilian waxing. Never done that, but didn't plan on finding out how it is.
Habits and Tools
There are many habits that helped me a lot. Here they are in a quick fire section
- Taking a cold shower in the morning daily
- Meditating in the morning daily
- Regular Exercise (the gym becomes your best friend)
- Dedicating time to work
- Use a site blocker on PC and Mobile
- Going out into nature
- Going out with friends
- Delete Instagram/TikTok
The Accountability group brought us together, the accountability rules motivated us and helped immensely with our bonding, and the habits made each other as an individual stronger. This system is strong. Give it a try.
My Experience
The first week was already hitting hard. But here my motivation was also still very high. And honestly, after you've passed the first 4 days, the rest is doable. I'm not saying it is easy, but doable. I found it especially weird that I had a sudden boost of energy at the sixth and seventh day. But it was nice. Here you just have to work with the tools you have and getting used to doing more sport than usual.
The second week was a fight. Motivation can only bring you so far. And honestly, I was happy for the accountability group. This sense of unity that we were all still in was very important. On a smaller scale, nobody wanted to be the first to lose, and on the bigger scale, we all wanted to make it through. I often had to put my phone and other things away and distract myself. Physical exercise is the best distraction during NNN. Also, creative work in general. Especially when I played the piano, I was so focused. But I noticed my thoughts drifting away more, and overall I had a higher energy level. This is great.
The third week was the hardest. I wanted to quit. But I had to be strong. For my boys. And I had to push through. I was so happy to have blocked all sites on my PC and to generally not spend time on TikTok or Instagram, else it would have been even harder. Nevertheless, the struggle is real. I even watched some motivation videos on YouTube occasionally. And luckily enough, I made it through. Social events forced me out, I had enough going on with my mentoring, and I always had something to do that was productive. This is what kept me going.
The fourth week was easy. It was just the last few days. I knew if I'd fail know, I'd be a huge pussy. The last few struggles were won, and we motivated us until the end. And with that, I finally reached the 1st of December. I made it through. In fact, we all made it through.
My Learnings
I am incredibly happy to have gone through this. I have gained so much more energy and proved myself, once again, to what I'm capable of. No Nut November is an experience that every man and woman must have made once. It's really an amazing challenge to show yourself, how much self-control you can have about your life. I felt like I had more energy overall, and I'm surprised how much it benefited me. And it still affects me positively. Of course, it doesn't end after November. After NNN, the true fight begins: How much control over your urges are you willing to take? Whatever rule you want to apply, is up to you ;)
My challenge for you
Don't fap for 7 days. That's it. Seems easy, right? Then commit to it without failure ;)
My Song of the week
You might think I've lost it now after you watch the music video, but believe me, the Japanese know how to produce some good fucking music. I love it.
"first death" by "TK from Ling tosite sigure"
Thank you so much for reading today's blog. I hope I could inspire you to take some action!
Much love,
Kim